I wish I could paint a picture of who I used to be for you.
Shy. No confidence. Follower. Fearful. Silent.
It seems like forever since I was that girl who was afraid to speak up, who closed her heart off and didn’t allow people to see the real me.
In 2013, my life changed when the universe brought the most incredible souls in my life. People that were seeing more to life than my eyes were ever exposed to. Something changed, my soul was awakened and there was no turning back.
Two women believed in me and encouraged me to be a leader, and be the person speaking in the front of the room. I started by sharing my dreams. This opened a door that inspired me to enter into a speaking competition that is the pivotal turning point that most people talked about.
At first, I thought to play it safe with sharing my dream of wanting to serve abroad, but then I decided to find the courage to share something more personal than I ever had before. My truth was that I struggled with...
Ever since I released my book 2 years ago, the thing that gets me the most excited is talking to other people who are writing and publishing their books. I am always so happy when people think to ask me about the publishing process.
In the last 6 years, the most important thing I’ve learned is that stories have the power to change lives. I know hearing people’s stories gives me a new perspective. Whenever I’ve taken that leap to share my story people it never fails to have someone come to me saying thank you for sharing because I really resonated with your story.
Everything I’ve done in my entrepreneurial career has stemmed from me choosing to show up vulnerably and bravely to tell my story, my experiences and what I did to overcome them. Building your own business doesn’t have to stem from you creating this brand-new product or coming up with a new idea. Building a successful...
Not once, but twice.
Over the last few months, I developed a cyst on my face and finally got it removed last week on Saturday. Of course, with anything like that naturally, there is bruising.
Well looking at myself in the mirror, I had a flashback to when I looked myself in the mirror after my car accident. I felt embarrassed, and my heart sunk. I felt myself retreat inwards.
Hello, trigger number one this week.
Whenever I find myself getting triggered I immediately go to self-awareness and understanding.
What I’ve taken away from this is that our body remembers traumas. And the reminder that this experience gave me was being patient, and be gentle with myself.
This past Friday, I was woken up to a phone call from my mom.. my grandfather had passed.
I spent the next couple of hours just crying. Allowing myself to release all the sadness, pain and worry. This is nothing new to my grieving process.
I caught myself simply closing my eyes and...
It’s been 2 years…
This week will be two years since I launched my book, The Key to Happiness. And I’ll be honest, I had no idea that I was onto something when I first wrote this book.
You see, I discovered something so profound at a very young age.
Authentic Happiness. Or True Happiness. However, you want you to name it. That is something people spends their entire lives “searching” for. But it isn’t something that we go searching for somewhere. It’s something that we do within, internally, that will allow us to shift.
I didn’t experience trauma at a young age, but things weren’t “easy” growing up. My parents separated when I was very young, and I didn’t have a relationship with him until I became an adult. I experienced my first loss at the young age of 13 and many more afterward. I was hit by a car when I was 17. I grew up struggling with self-love, body image issues and lack of confidence. This was it....
This week I began listening to my first ever audiobook!
As someone who’s visual, it’s easy for me to simply not process information unless I’m actually reading the words. What I’m realizing is that the moment I focus my attention on the audiobook I’m able to really take in all the details.
I’ve decided to start off with a book by Mel Robbins, “How to Take Control of Your Life”, hence the title of today’s blog post.
I’ll be honest, this past week has felt like a big win for me. And it’s simply for small things like still running my workshop even though I was set on having a more filled up room and stopping myself from getting distracted by the ideas that have taken me off track and brought me back to my center, my purpose.
I’m not too far into the audiobook, but the theme so far has been fear and not allowing fear to paralyze us from moving forward.
What I’ve realized that the first most...
Consistency is key.
I keep hearing it and say YES. I even say it, but am I actually living it?
The truth is no.
I’ve been struggling with “destination syndrome”.
I don’t know if that even is a thing but I’m making it a thing. And what I mean by it is that I’m simply been so impatient about getting to the end destination instead of actually fully embracing the journey and experiencing the growth I needed to get there. Instead of being consistent.
And for that, I take full ownership and responsibility.
I haven’t been putting all my time and effort into everything. Except I feel like an energizer bunny getting excited about the next big idea I get and want to act upon instead of staying, showing up fully and failing.
To be completely honest, I have had this personal goal and desire to be set living my life, in my career, by the time I was 30-35. And as I approach my 26th birthday in a couple of weeks and making the steps towards...
Shout to my soul sisters. The ones who are staying true to themselves and honouring themselves. You are my true inspirations.
Self-doubt is a battle that I’ve had to cross many times.
And I’ve come to understand where it comes from. It comes from me comparing myself to “the big leagues”. And yet, all of those people had to start somewhere. And the longer I wait to get started the longer it will take for me to be playing in the big leagues.
I’ve had two beautiful conversations this week that gave me permission to be REAL.
Here are my learnings this week
BEING AN ENTREPRENEUR IS HARD
Real at the fact that being an entrepreneur, well it’s hard and it takes a year to build a foundation. It takes lots of trials and setbacks in order to find your groove. It’s scary at times, disappointing other times. And that’s just the TRUTH.
LOSING YOUR WAY
Sometimes along the way, we lose our way, we fall of our path and it takes us time to get...
Are we destined for greatness?
I believe we are.
I believe that we are taught to be fearful and to doubt ourselves.
I believe we make the choice to hold onto our adversities that keep us stuck.
I ultimately believe that we are destined to be great and do great.
It all comes down to a choice on whether or not we are going to fulfill on that greatness. On what we’re placed on this earth to do.
It’s up to us to find it and go after it.
You see, I believe I was destined to be a Story Coach.
And just the other day, I was asked what got me into becoming a story coach. And as I replied it made me realize how deep this runs.
This was my response…
“I have to say, it was a very natural process for me and to be honest, I feel like it’s why I’m here on earth (not to get all deep). But I always loved helping people when I was younger and being that person people confided in and so I went into social service work. And then one thing lead to another.
Let’s talk about achieving your goals and dreams, shall we?
As I study the way I’ve gone about achieving my big goals, I realize that the biggest, most important component is acknowledging that our mind, body and soul or heart must work as one.
The easiest to forget is our mind.
The most powerful tool and resources we have, and we use it blindly. The single most important thing you need to do in order to achieve your greatest dreams and desires, work on your mind. You won’t be able to achieve all you set out with a mindset of who you used to be 5 years ago. If you want to receive differently you have to give out different.
As I go through my 90-day journey, the single most important battle I face every single morning when my alarm goes off is not my body being sore, it’s the thoughts I have going through my mind.
Starting my day with an I CAN, and I WILL, instead of an I CAN’T, or ANY sort of excuses will determine the success of my day....
I’m done with not giving my 110%
I’m done with self-doubt.
I’m done with procrastinating.
I’m done with fearing the what ifs.
I’m done with holding back.
I’m done with the disappointment.
Most of us think we have no idea what is holding us back but, let’s be honest, you do.
And I’ve known. I procrastinate because of my fear and self-doubt.
I procrastinate on going to the gym because I want results right away.
I know exactly what is holding me back from achieving the goals I’ve been setting my eyes on but not fully COMMITTED to.
3 days ago, that changed.
You’re probably thinking, “What happened 3 days ago, Ashley?”
Nothing. Except for a decision.
I decided I was done with all of that.
And to prove to myself that I can be committed, I decided to do a 90 challenge.
Every single day, I wake up and go to the gym first thing.
I’ve chosen to cut alcohol and sugar.
So yes, it’s only...
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